In a deeply revealing emotional Op-Ed written by Meghan Markle for the New York Times, the Duchess of Sussex opened up on having suffered a miscarriage in July and the accompanying deep grief of loss she had to endure with hubby, Prince Harry.
In an article for The New York Times, titled ‘The Losses We Share’ Meghan wrote:
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
She goes on to describe how she “felt a sharp cramp” after changing her son Archie’s diaper (nappy).
According to the royal she went to hospital with Prince Harry where she watched her “husband’s heart break” as she held his hand.
“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.
“After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.
“Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”
Sky News’ royal correspondent Rhiannon Mills has been told by Harry’s team that the Duke did discuss the baby loss with his family.
She describes losing a baby as “carrying an almost unbearable grief”.
“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.
“Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning,” she said.
The article is entitled ‘The Losses We Share’ and the duchess goes on to talk about the importance of asking people if they are OK.
“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realised that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, ‘Are you OK?’, she writes.
“Are we?” she asks. “This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating.”
Prince Harry and Meghan currently reside in California where they are starting their new life, away from royal duties.
Meghan Markle, 39 and Prince Harry, 36 welcomed their first born, a son named Archie in 2019.