If you’ve been online lately, you’ve probably seen him, the foreign guy moving through parts of Ghana and Kenya, turning encounters with African women into content for his video diary.
It’s easy to react with anger. I did too. But anger directed at the women will not solve the problem. If we truly want to protect our daughters and sisters, we must stop asking, “Why are they agreeing?” and start asking, “What power dynamics are at play here?”
Let me be clear. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a foreign man wooing an African woman. There is nothing wrong with exchanging numbers or forming connections across cultures. Relationships are not the issue. Exploitation is.
This is not about African women being “easy.” This is about manipulation. It is about someone who understands how economic disparity, the allure of a foreign passport, and the performance of luxury can influence perception. He sells a fantasy and he monetizes it.
But here is the hard question. How does someone meet you today, and within minutes or hours, you are already in his apartment? Where is the time to observe, to ask questions, to understand who he truly is beyond the accent, the passport, or the lifestyle he displays?
Not everything that glitters is gold. Real value is built, not rushed. What you work for, what you build with patience and dignity, will always be more valuable than what is handed to you through someone else’s calculated intentions.
This conversation is not about shaming women. It is about awareness and protection. Some may think they are being smart, enjoying attention or opportunity. But often, the person holding the camera has already studied the situation. Exploitation hides behind charm, validation, and the illusion of opportunity.
Beyond the embarrassment and online exposure, there are deeper risks such as emotional damage, reputational harm, and serious health consequences. When intimacy becomes content and validation replaces discernment, everyone involved becomes vulnerable.
So how do we fight it? Not with shame. With education.
We teach our girls that a passport does not define their worth. We teach them that if a man is more focused on filming than respecting their comfort, he is using them. We teach them to take their time, to observe, to ask questions, and to protect themselves. We teach them not to be easily manipulated by performance.
And we teach our boys that masculinity is not conquest, and that broadcasting intimacy for profit is not success.
African women must believe in themselves. Your value is not determined by foreign validation. Learn discernment, practice patience, and study someone carefully before entering private spaces. Protect your safety, your dignity, and your future.
This conversation is uncomfortable, but it is necessary. Silence protects predators. Awareness protects our daughters.
Let’s talk about it. How do we start this conversation at home? How do we build confidence so strong that no foreigner with a phone looks like a prize, just another person who must prove their character?
Stand firm. Speak wisely. Act consciously.
Ayomide Monsurat Sunmola
Editor, Duchess
